How to follow proper funeral etiquette(礼仪)? Funerals allow family and friends to mourn(悼念) their loved ones, provide closure, and enable the living to move forward. Observing the etiquette of this important ritual(仪式) will help you feel more comfortable while providing comfort to those in mourning. You will need: flowers or a charitable donation(慈善捐赠) and edible(可以吃的) arrangement, words of condolence(吊唁), fond remembrances, and proper attire. Optional: a genuine hug.
Step 1: Attend the wake
Attend the wake, also known as a visitation(探望) or calling, at the funeral home prior to(于……之前) the funeral. Approach the casket(<美>棺材), which may be open or closed, and offer a prayer or quiet reflection(沉思，回忆). A short stay of 15 minutes is considered appropriate to express condolences to the family.
Tip: Make sure to dress appropriately for a viewing, funeral, or burial. A black suit or black dress will suffice(满足需要).
Step 2: Send flowers
Send flowers, if you wish, to the funeral home or the family residence. Charitable donations in the name of(以……的名义) the deceased(逝者) may be indicated in lieu of(代替) flowers, in which case you may send an edible arrangement to the family in addition to the donation.
Step 3: Attend the service
Attend the funeral or memorial service. The family will appreciate the show of support.
Tip: Offer condolences to the family prior to mingling with(交谈，混合) other friends or family.
Step 4: Say a few words
Say a few words of condolence either before the service or when everyone is gathered after. A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is enough to offer comfort to relatives.
Tip: Avoid cliches(陈词滥调) such as: “Everything happens for a reason,” and “I know how you feel.” If you can’t think of anything more to say, offer a hug.
Step 5: Share remembrances
Share fond(喜爱的) remembrances(回忆), anecdotes(轶事), and stories about the deceased with loved ones. Recounting(讲述) what the deceased meant to you is always appreciated.
Step 6: Attend the burial
Attend the burial, which usually follows the funeral. If you were close to the deceased, you may follow the lead of the family if they choose to deposit a ceremonial shovel(铲) of earth or drop a rose or rose petals(花瓣) into the grave.
Step 7: Share a meal
Share a meal with the family and friends of the deceased after the burial, if one is planned. This tradition allows close friends and family to share fond memories, enjoy each other’s company(陪伴), and symbolizes the continuation(延续) of life.
Did you know? In the Buddhist(佛教的) religion, death is prepared for through meditation and is viewed as a rebirth(重生).